Persian · noun · Love & Longing

Sitam

सितम
said si-TAM
also written: sitam-e, sitamgar
Meaning

Tyranny, oppression, cruelty; the wrong the beloved inflicts on the lover.

Literally: tyranny, oppression, cruelty

Usage & notes

Sitam is tyranny — the beloved cast as a beautiful oppressor (sitamgar) who torments the lover for sport. Like jafa, it is the cruelty the ghazal paradoxically prizes: the lover would rather be wounded than forgotten. The whole drama dignifies suffering as the lover's chosen vocation, and in the spiritual reading, the seeming harshness of a Beloved whose every blow is secretly a mercy.