When you feel unremarkable and like you will never matter

Iqbal on Feeling Ordinary

There is a quiet, common feeling that you are simply ordinary — unremarkable, not the kind of person who matters, destined for a small and forgettable life. Iqbal's philosophy contradicts this feeling at its root, and not with flattery. He genuinely did not believe the human self was ever ordinary. He believed almost everyone had badly misjudged what they were carrying.

Iqbal's answer to his own favourite question is the place to start. What is selfhood, he asked — and answered: the secret hidden inside life, the waking-up of the whole universe. He did not say this of special people. He said it of selfhood as such — of the self that every human being has. In Iqbal's picture, an ordinary person is a point at which the universe becomes conscious of itself. Whatever you are, you are not small in the way the feeling claims. You may be unbuilt, but unbuilt is not the same as small.

That distinction is the heart of Iqbal's reply. He did not believe the self was a fixed quantity, large in remarkable people and small in ordinary ones. He believed it was a project — built through wanting, choosing, acting, meeting resistance, or left unbuilt. The feeling of being ordinary is almost always the feeling of an unbuilt self looking at itself and mistaking its current size for its true capacity. Iqbal's whole life's work was the claim that the size can change. You are not reading a verdict. You are looking at a starting point.

He also located greatness somewhere other than where the feeling looks for it. The feeling of being ordinary compares your visible profile — your status, your renown — against remarkable people and finds it lacking. Iqbal measured differently. He told you to dive into your own self and find the trace of life there. The remarkable thing, in his philosophy, is interior; it is the depth and strength of the self, which no external profile reveals. By Iqbal's measure, a person with no fame at all can be carrying an extraordinary self, and a celebrated person can be carrying an unbuilt one.

Iqbal made the stakes of this almost outrageous. Raise your selfhood high enough, he wrote, and before every decree, destiny will pause to ask you what you want. He did not address that promise to a special caste of people. He addressed it to anyone willing to do the building. The path from feeling ordinary to mattering, in Iqbal's universe, is not a matter of being secretly chosen. It is a matter of starting the work — and the work is open to everyone, which is the most democratic thing about his thought.

So Iqbal would not soothe you by insisting you are already special. He would do something more useful. He would tell you that the feeling of being ordinary has misread the situation — that it has mistaken an unbuilt self for a small one, and an invisible interior for an empty one. The remarkable thing is not handed to a chosen few. It is built, by ordinary people, out of ordinary days. You are not too ordinary to matter. You have, so far, simply not begun.